Lessons I’m Learning from Job (Part 2)

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Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ (Galatians 6:2).

Lesson number two:  Be a real friend.

Job went from the top of the world to the depths of despair.  He had possessions, wealth, status, servants and family.  Scripture identifies him as “the greatest of all the people of the east” (Job 1:3).  It only takes a couple of chapters of reading to find how fast life can change.  Job lost everything—his wealth, his possession, his family and his health—in such a sudden manner.

Job couldn’t understand what was happening to him.  At first He provides a sincere proclamation, “The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord” (Job 1:21).  But it doesn’t take long for Job through his suffering to question.  “Why am I experiencing such pain?”  “Where is God in my suffering?”  “How can I escape this agony?” 

What Job needed was a friend or two.  He ends up with three.  They began by sitting with Job in silence for seven days and nights.  This would be the best care they would provide to this man of sorrows.  When they begin to share their counsel, they accuse Job of having committed some offensive sin toward God.  They try to drive the point that God would never have allowed such catastrophe if Job were an upstanding, righteous person.  They thought Job to be the model citizen, but now wonder if they really knew the man.  Jobs personal suffering, they say, is a strong indication that Job’s life of blameless behavior was a shame.  He must be hiding something.

Job becomes frustrated.  The more his friends speak, the less comforted he becomes.  Their conversations with Job actually move him to question the Lord’s motives, the Lord’s fairness, the Lord’s sense of right and wrong.  With friends like this, who needs enemies?

What Job needed was a real friend.  We are called to be friends of those who bear the burdens of a broken world.  We all know someone who is hurting mentally, physically, emotionally or spiritually.  We are all called to be friends.  Here’s what friends do:

  • Friends are present.  Often, the most comfort we give is simply by being there. 
  • Friends listen before they speak.  A suffering person needs to be heard.
  • Friends pray for and with one who suffers, asking for God’s peace.
  • Friends give hope.  This is not some “pie in the sky” hollow proclamation that things could be worse or that things will get better soon.  Hope is knowing that the Lord hasn’t forgotten us, that He uses all things for good and that the perfect life we long to live is coming in heaven.

These are not four steps to alleviate pain and suffering.  This is simply what compassionate friends do.
Prayer: Lord Jesus, You are no stranger to pain and suffering.  You experienced the greatest agony by delivering us from the guilt of sin through Your work on the cross.  Even as You were a friend to the suffering while You walked the earth, so make us those friends to provide comfort and hope to those in need.  In Your name I pray.  Amen.

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